Suggestion

[jodawi.livejournal.com]

In a group like this, it is probably best to avoid using the word 'you', and instead use 'I'.

"Do you really think that..." > "I don't think that..."

It's very difficult in English written text to avoid getting into flame wars over controversial subjects if you focus on the individuals involved in the discussion instead of ideas.

I don't like having to police the group, and don't want to have to decide whether or not something qualifies as a personal attack.