I take issue with the term pornography. I'd prefer the term erotica. Pornography has a negative connotation, but one person's porn is another's erotica. There's definitely a lot of bad erotica out there, which degrades the woman and certainly doesn't do much more for the man, typically reducing him to a meat stick. Of course, like most people, I still use the word porn to mean sexually explicit material.
I'd challenge your assertion that erotica is only male-focused. Most VISUAL erotica is male-centered. Research indicates men are hard-wired to respond visually to sexual stimuli. Most cultures reinforce this by covering certain areas of women's bodies, which emphasizes those body areas as being special in some way.
Women, from what I've read and know from female friends, tend to enjoy written erotica more. Fanfic is a great example of erotica written by and for other women. One friend wrote erotica when she was a young teen to aid in sex fantasies.
I don't pass judgement on anyone who uses erotica. Being in a committed relationship doesn't shut off a person's sexuality. Masturbation is something most people do, whether they are not dating at all, or are dating multiple people.
However, I have heard about people that become sexually obsessed about erotica. I've heard a few men say it interferes with their ability to have sex with their partner. Some people are prone to obsessive behavior, sexual obsessives are a subset of this group.
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Date: 2006-08-14 03:07 pm (UTC)I'd challenge your assertion that erotica is only male-focused. Most VISUAL erotica is male-centered. Research indicates men are hard-wired to respond visually to sexual stimuli. Most cultures reinforce this by covering certain areas of women's bodies, which emphasizes those body areas as being special in some way.
Women, from what I've read and know from female friends, tend to enjoy written erotica more. Fanfic is a great example of erotica written by and for other women. One friend wrote erotica when she was a young teen to aid in sex fantasies.
I don't pass judgement on anyone who uses erotica. Being in a committed relationship doesn't shut off a person's sexuality. Masturbation is something most people do, whether they are not dating at all, or are dating multiple people.
However, I have heard about people that become sexually obsessed about erotica. I've heard a few men say it interferes with their ability to have sex with their partner. Some people are prone to obsessive behavior, sexual obsessives are a subset of this group.