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Pornography and relationships......
Hi, all. I am a 27 year old female who has been married and divorced once, and then, I married again. I have never really taken on any 'titles' to my points of view. I have strong feelings about things, but I have never classified them into a group of other's beliefs. I have never found one system of beliefs that fit everything I think and feel, so I don't bother trying to find one. I don't believe in God or any spiritual entity, but I do have my own ideas about morality.
I am curious how different people in this community might feel about pornography. I am curious if one feels it is okay at a certain point in life when one is not married or in a relationship. I am curious about one's feelings of its use inside a marriage with or without a spouse who consents to it. I am curious how one thinks their spouse should react to it. I am curious if one thinks it affects how he/she looks at him/herself. I am curious if one thinks it affects how he/she looks at others. I am curious how one thinks it changes their expectations in real sexual relationships. I am curious if one thinks it creates intimacy issues inside a relationship.
There are many other curiosities I can come up with, and if you are curious about my own viewpoint, you can read my own personal journal entry on it, which was the last entry I made in my own journal.
I am curious about this, obviously that I am posting it in this community, in a male viewpoint, as pornography is mainly geared towards men, and I believe them to be the main consumers of pornographic material.
I am curious how different people in this community might feel about pornography. I am curious if one feels it is okay at a certain point in life when one is not married or in a relationship. I am curious about one's feelings of its use inside a marriage with or without a spouse who consents to it. I am curious how one thinks their spouse should react to it. I am curious if one thinks it affects how he/she looks at him/herself. I am curious if one thinks it affects how he/she looks at others. I am curious how one thinks it changes their expectations in real sexual relationships. I am curious if one thinks it creates intimacy issues inside a relationship.
There are many other curiosities I can come up with, and if you are curious about my own viewpoint, you can read my own personal journal entry on it, which was the last entry I made in my own journal.
I am curious about this, obviously that I am posting it in this community, in a male viewpoint, as pornography is mainly geared towards men, and I believe them to be the main consumers of pornographic material.
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I'd challenge your assertion that erotica is only male-focused. Most VISUAL erotica is male-centered. Research indicates men are hard-wired to respond visually to sexual stimuli. Most cultures reinforce this by covering certain areas of women's bodies, which emphasizes those body areas as being special in some way.
Women, from what I've read and know from female friends, tend to enjoy written erotica more. Fanfic is a great example of erotica written by and for other women. One friend wrote erotica when she was a young teen to aid in sex fantasies.
I don't pass judgement on anyone who uses erotica. Being in a committed relationship doesn't shut off a person's sexuality. Masturbation is something most people do, whether they are not dating at all, or are dating multiple people.
However, I have heard about people that become sexually obsessed about erotica. I've heard a few men say it interferes with their ability to have sex with their partner. Some people are prone to obsessive behavior, sexual obsessives are a subset of this group.